Society often throws out a narrow definition of masculinity and what it means to be a true gentleman. Nowadays, what it means to be a man is often shrouded in outdated stereotypes. Here are 18 things that men consider masculine, but in reality, they are actually not.
Monster Trucks
Some men think a monster truck makes them a “monster” in the masculinity department. That’s like saying a Chihuahua with a spiked collar is a Doberman. Sure, it’s loud and looks intimidating, but real strength comes from within, not from how much gas you guzzle.
Hunting Trophies
A wall full of taxidermied animals does not make a macho man. Real men appreciate the beauty of nature; they don’t hang it up on a wall like a dusty old hat. Psychology Today reveals how men who trophy hunt think it “provides a way for men to accrue status.” Maybe it is time to think again!
Not Crying
The belief that real men don’t cry is a harmful misconception. Suppressing emotions can lead to mental health issues and hinder healthy communication. Expressing vulnerability, including through tears, is a sign of emotional maturity and strength. So let it out, guys; you’ll feel much better for it.
“Male” Activities
Steering clear of “feminine” activities is outdated. Embracing a wide range of interests, whether it’s knitting, ballet, or flower arranging, is sexy! Society should not define the things a man genuinely feels passionate about; challenging this stereotype only makes him more interesting.
Giant BBQs
He may think his giant grill makes him king of the backyard, but it doesn’t make him king of the hill. Often labeled a ‘man’s job,’ Forbes reveals how “in Thailand, Malaysia, and most of Southeast Asia, women preside over the grill.” Just remember, guys, it’s not the size; it’s what you do with it.
Camouflage
Unless he’s actively serving in the military or hunting for his dinner, it’s just a misguided fashion statement. True masculinity isn’t about the pattern of your clothing but about your character, your actions, and your values. So maybe it’s time to ditch the fancy dress and the toy soldier look.
Leather Jacket
Owning a leather jacket doesn’t make you a tough guy. A man might strut around in his leather jacket like a Hollywood heartthrob, but that doesn’t automatically make him a man’s man. True masculinity isn’t found in the clothes he wears.
Being Strongest
If he’s obsessed with showing he’s the strongest, then it isn’t very manly after all. True strength isn’t about brute force or mindless aggression. Real men are strong in mind, body, and spirit, and they use their strength to protect, not to intimidate or dominate others.
Promiscuity
Boasting about numerous sexual conquests and racking up a high number of sexual partners is not a sign of masculinity. Being a man does not come down to the number of notches on the bedpost or objectifying and disrespecting others by talking about it with your bros.
Being a Sports Fan
If he misses the game on Sunday, it doesn’t make him less of a man. Some men feel pressured to keep up with sports just to fit in with other men, even when they are not genuinely interested. As with anything, pretending due to peer pressure or societal norms is a facade that is not hunky.
Getting Blind Drunk
Getting blind drunk with the boys all the time is not a requirement to be a masculine man. However, a study from the Natural Library of Medicine indicates that “peer acceptance and social cohesion relate to attitudes towards alcohol use.” Making independent decisions is far more attractive.
Not Asking for Help
He may believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness, but true masculinity lies in recognizing when you need support and having the courage to seek it out. Whether it’s asking for directions, emotional support, or assistance, seeking help isn’t a sign of failure but a sign of humility.
Being Homophobic or Transphobic
A study from ResearchGate highlights how “enactments of homophobia remain integral components of contemporary masculine identities.” Expressing homophobic views does not reinforce his masculinity. A real man feels comfortable embracing diversity and respecting people’s differences.
Having All the Answers
Always needing to be right to be a man is a misconception that can lead to stubbornness. True masculinity involves being able to admit when he’s wrong. The “my way or the highway” attitude doesn’t make a stronger man, just a less flexible one.
Hiding Emotions
The belief that keeping emotions under wraps and avoiding deep connections is not the mark of a true man but only leads to a lack of intimacy with a partner, friends, and family. It is also a misconception that can lead to loneliness and unfulfilled relationships. True masculinity involves embracing vulnerability.
Muscle Shirts
Overly flaunting muscles can seem like a desperate attempt to prove his worth. He may proudly strut around in his muscle shirt, believing it showcases his masculinity. However, true strength isn’t just about bulging biceps and washboard abs. A true man doesn’t need to show off his muscles to prove his worth.
Not Cooking
The outdated, stereotypical opinion that cooking is a “woman’s job” is still held by some men who strive for masculinity. Cooking is a life skill, not a gender role, and a man who can cook is a man who can take care of himself and others.
Not Complimenting Men
Giving a genuine compliment is a sign of confidence and security, not weakness. He may believe that complimenting other men diminishes his own masculinity, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. A true man does not feel threatened by another man’s strengths.