In the ever-evolving landscape of communication, what boomers might consider harmless or normal can sometimes clash with Gen Z’s values and perspectives. In this article, we’ll cover 17 of the things that boomers might have grown up saying that no longer sit well with the younger generation.
Racial Stereotypes
Gen Z is more sensitive to racial and cultural diversity, and rightfully so. While boomers may not think much of using racial stereotypes, younger generations view language that perpetuates stereotypes as inappropriate and offensive. They place an emphasis on promoting respect and inclusivity.
Commenting on Weight or Appearance
Young people value body positivity and self-acceptance, so any unsolicited comments about their weight or appearance are seen as inappropriate. Boomers may think they’re being helpful by pointing out others’ flaws so they can fix them, but to Gen Z, promoting self-esteem and confidence is prioritized over making others feel self-conscious.
“Boys Will Be Boys”
In this day and age, this phrase just doesn’t cut it. It’s seen as simply excusing a boy’s bad behavior. According to Psychology Today, “This phrase allows harmful behaviors to persist unchecked and possibly worsen over time.” It’s also now seen as perpetuating harmful gender norms. Gen Z prioritizes personal accountability and dismantling toxic masculinity.
Calling Someone “Exotic”
To call someone “exotic” isn’t unusual for boomers, but it’s considered othering and offensive by Gen Z as it can make individuals feel like outsiders. Younger generations prefer specific, respectful terms that acknowledge a person’s background, and “exotic” is seen as a term of objectification.
Dismissing Mental Illness
Many boomers grew up being taught that mental illness is for the weak and to simply “get on with it,” which is why they continue to dismiss it today. However, Gen Z emphasizes mental health awareness and destigmatization. Casual use of terms like “crazy” or “schizo” is deemed inappropriate.
“Back in My Day”
The phrase “back in my day” is often followed by a tale of how much worse boomers supposedly had it, but it’s seen as a dismissal of Gen Z’s experiences and challenges. The phrase is viewed as undermining the struggles unique to each generation.
Using the Term “Oriental”
The term “Oriental” is considered outdated and often offensive. As shared by the Washington Post, former President Obama even signed a bill, meaning the word couldn’t be used in federal law. Gen Z has a preference for specific, respectful terms like “Asian” or an individual’s country of origin.
“Kids These Days”
Another phrase used by boomers that is hated by younger generations, this one is viewed as dismissive and condescending. Gen Z values open-mindedness and understanding between generations, but this saying is perceived as a stereotype about younger age groups.
“Man Up”
Telling someone to “man up” is seen as reinforcing harmful gender norms and toxic masculinity when said to either gender. The phrase encourages strength or toughness in a gender-specific way. Gen Z advocates for respecting individual emotional expressions instead.
“It’s Just a Joke”
Boomers’ relaxed attitude toward humor contrasts with Gen Z’s sensitivity. The younger generation tends to prefer respectful and sensitive humor, being careful about the jokes they make. They may not agree with what their older counterparts consider funny or appropriate.
Commenting on Someone’s Choice Not to Drink
Gen Z promotes inclusivity and open-mindedness about personal choices, whereas boomers are more likely to press someone. “When we sober shame, we make others feel like their decision not to drink is wrong, boring, or even offensive,” as per Alcohol Change. Gen Z recognizes different reasons for abstaining from alcohol and views unsolicited comments on drinking choices as inappropriate.
“I Don’t See Color”
While boomers may see this as a positive thing to say, it’s often viewed as dismissive of the unique experiences of people of color. The phrase is also seen as ignoring racial realities. Gen Z opts to acknowledge and celebrate differences instead.
Using Gendered Insults
Back in the day, it wasn’t uncommon to use terms like “sissy” or “girly” as insults, but this is now considered inappropriate. Gen Z values gender equality and inclusivity, and they aim to promote respect and understanding regardless of gender identity.
Asking About Marital or Parental Status
This is another sensitive topic for Gen Z, who consider questions about these things by boomers to be assuming that marriage or parenthood is the norm—which is potentially insensitive. They find it inconsiderate of those who choose not to marry or have children.
“You Look Good for Your Age”
As shared by Allure, the saying “You look good for your age” is considered a back-handed and outdated compliment. While boomers might have the best intentions, Gen Z values self-acceptance and body positivity at all ages. They prefer compliments that don’t reinforce age-related stereotypes.
“Speak English!”
Some boomers are of the opinion that people must speak English in an English-speaking country, but this demand is seen as ethnocentric and exclusionary. Gen Z appreciates linguistic diversity and encourages the celebration of different languages. It’s considered an intolerant expectation in multilingual contexts.
The Word “Handicapped”
For those who aren’t aware, the term “handicapped” is now considered outdated and potentially offensive as it implies negative values. “Person with a disability” or “differently abled” are preferred terms by younger generations. Gen Z emphasizes recognizing the individual’s humanity first.